With all of us on the fast track of life often times we fell overwhelmed. The cell phone ringing, email flowing in, demanding kids, pets or family it is hard to stay in balance. Do you even realize if your life is in a constant state of out of balance? Personal coach Laura Berman Fortgang states, “You know it’s time to make a change when misery and stress outweigh joy on a daily basis for two weeks or more.”
More than two-thirds of the employees surveyed believe they can “have it all” when it comes to a having both a successful career and a full life outside work. Work-life balance is so important that more than half of those surveyed have turned down a job offer because of the potential impact on it. Source: huffingtonpost.com
The book, Living Your Best Life and NOW WHAT? 90 Days to a New Life Direction, suggests evaluating the state of your life with the following quiz.
True or false:
1. I have more than enough time to do what I want to do.
2. I am on a health regimen that helps me feel energized.
3. I look forward to every day.
4. There are no people in my life (at home or at work) who drain me.
5. I love my home (location, contents, the feel, the style).
6. I have no clutter in my home and/or office.
7. I live a life pursuing what I want instead of what I should do.
8. My work is satisfying and rewarding.
9. I take at least two week long vacations a year.
10. I do not work on weekends.
11. I get plenty of sleep.
12. I have plenty of quality time with my children and/or the people who matter to me.
13. I have at least one hobby or pastime outside of my work and family activities.
14. I eat foods that make me feel energized instead of sluggish.
15. I have the space to take at least 15 minutes of silence a day.
16. I have friends that are easy to be with and a joy to spend time with.
17. I carry no heavy emotional burdens or addictive behaviors.
Earn one point for every time you said “true.” If you answered “true” more often than “false” (a score of at least 9), you are probably living a well-balanced life. If you scored 8 or less, your lifestyle may need to make some changes.
Didn’t pass the quiz? “Stop. Take two days off immediately to regroup and relax,” Fortgang advises. “Ask yourself what you are hating, tolerating, or resenting about the current state of your life. Make a list and start doing your best to correct things right away.”
Balancing the demands of career and personal life will always be challenge. Keep a diary of all of the events you do for 3 days or more. this will give you a sense of where is your time really going. Also record how do these things make you feel. Are they things you could delegate to someone else? Are you just over booking yourself or are you letting others dictate your schedule? Of course there will be situation you just can not say no. But overall are there any trends that are sabotoging your happiness and are time suckers.
Consider these tips to rebalance your life:
- Track your time. Track your daily tasks. Decide what’s necessary and what satisfies you the most. Cut or delegate activities you don’t enjoy or can’t handle.
- Explore of your options. Ask your employer about flex hours, a compressed workweek, job sharing, telecommuting or other scheduling flexibility. See if there is another staff member who will switch or take up additional hours that are challenging for you. Of course you would want to check with your immediate supervisor prior to doing this option.
- Learn to say no. Whether it’s a co-worker asking you to spearhead an extra project or your child’s local cub scout group asking you run a kid’s party, it’s OK to politely decline. Do not accept these things out of guilt or obligation. You need to set aside time for the activities that are meaningful to you.
- Leave work at work. Create a boundary between work and home. Make a conscious decision to separate work time from personal time by putting all electronic devices on vibrate or on the charger.
- Manage your time. Organize tasks in groups or do a little daily. For example, running errands all at once or doing a load of laundry daily, rather than saving it all for your day off. Put family events on a weekly calendar with an daily to-do list. Prioritze and let the rest go.
- Reinforce your support system. At work, join forces with co-workers who can cover for you — and vice versa — when family conflicts arise. At home, enlist trusted friends and family to help in with child care or personal responsibilities when you need to work overtime or travel.
- Take care of yourself. Maintain a healthy diet, add a physical activity daily and get enough sleep. Set aside time each day for an activity that you enjoy, such as meditating or reading.
Check in with yourself periodically to gauge if you are in balance. Share with us below on ways you rebalance and de stress.
Source: Webmd, Mayoclinic and Huffington Post.com. Image source: freedigitalphotos.net